“It is done unto you as you believe.” This quote comes from the Bible, though you absolutely don’t need to be a Christian to appreciate the truth of this commonly cited statement. I’m not a Christian myself. Rather, I believe that thoughts and beliefs create experiences, and I study, practice, write and talk about conscious living. By conscious living practices, I’m referring to the ways in which we plug into the universal laws already at work in our lives all the time, whether or not we realize that’s the case. One such law is the Law of Attraction, which is often grossly misunderstood. It’s more than just visualizing what you want and holding thoughts of your desires in your mind. There are some key components that must be present before you can plug into this omnipresent law to manifest what you desire.
One key component is belief. That is, to receive what you want, you must believe that you will get it, that you are deserving of it, and that nothing in your belief system contradicts it. Without belief, you can ask all you want, but you won’t get it. It isn’t because the universe doesn’t like you or that the Law of Attraction doesn’t work for you. Rather, you haven’t lined yourself up to receive what you want. The magnet of your ability to receive hasn’t been tuned to the vibration of attracting what you want.
Let me explain with a couple of examples.
Years ago, I kept asking for a raise and a promotion in my stagnating career. I visualized seeing automatic payroll deposits of increased amounts into my bank account. I did affirmations. I did all the things that I was supposed to do, including asking my employer then for what I deserved, backed up by objective analysis, and looking for better job opportunities. Yet, the raise and promotion continued to elude me. That was until I realized that I was blocking what I wanted. Deep down, I didn’t truly believe I would get either the raise or the promotion. When I realized that I was in my own way and worked on releasing my limiting beliefs, I got offered a vice president position at a company I interviewed with twice before. That offer meant a promotion and a huge salary increase. Even though I ended up turning down that job, I wouldn’t have received the offer had I not lined up my beliefs to receive what I asked for. (Incidentally, I turned down that job because, by then, I no longer believed in working long, stressful hours to make a good living. So, I chose self-employment instead, and went on to have my highest earnings of my career in the first full year I was in my own consulting practice, working a lot less than if I had accepted that VP position.)
Moral of the story: What kept away the promotion and raise I wanted was my own limiting beliefs.
Let me give you another example from the romance department. Late last year, after consciously choosing not to date for almost a year and a half, I was ready to welcome some romance into my life. More specifically, I thought – and felt – how nice it would be to be held by a strong pair of arms. Within a couple of weeks of my releasing that request, I met a gentleman. On an early date, he said to me, “I don’t know what it is about you, but every time I see you, I just want to wrap my arms around you.” I smiled and said a silent “Thank You” to the universe for fulfilling my desire – just as I asked and believed would manifest in my life.
Moral of the story: I believed in my request, without needing to specify who would fulfill it or when it would manifest. I simply released my desire, and allowed the universe to work on my behalf.
When you ask for something, be sure to be honest with yourself on whether you truly believe you can actually have it. If your request is a far-cry from where you are and what you believe you can attain, it won’t manifest, no matter how badly you want it.
For instance, if you are currently in serious debt, asking to become a millionaire by the end of this year may be too much of a stretch from where you are now – unless you genuinely believe it would happen. Consider a more realistic intermediate goal of becoming debt-free, while working on your beliefs about prosperity to align yourself to welcome more.
In the area of romantic love, if you are in any way not ready to be completely open, vulnerable and trusting with another, you aren’t in the space to forge a life-long partnership with the love of your life. Your beliefs aren’t in alignment with what you want. If that’s the case, know that it’s ok, and be gentle with and accepting of yourself at this stage in your life. Take a step back to reexamine your beliefs about yourself and relationships, especially any that may be latent or forgotten. Remain open to the possibility of meeting more suitors who aren’t ultimately your life partner. Their presence in your life is meant to help you identify limiting beliefs about yourself and fine-tune your relationship wants – to help you get ready to receive your life partner eventually.
Whatever your desire may be, you first need to become a match for what you want, such that you have an unshakable belief that its manifestation is all but inevitable – all without attempting to force it to happen. It really is done unto you as you believe.
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