Everyone is doing their best here. Help them succeed, and you’ll succeed, too. Take care of others, and they’d want to take care of you.
The above was part of the guidance I received when I meditated on Sunday morning. Following a powerful 4-question visioning process (I’ve written about before), I quieted my mind, and asked for the highest vision for me in this coming week. The above message is clear, direct and simple, and yet so easy to forget in the current “What’s in it for me” times in which we live. It’s a reminder that we never truly need to worry about ourselves when we focus on helping and serving others.
Help Others Succeed
I really appreciate this timely reminder from my inner wisdom. Being a leader isn’t so much about what results I can deliver personally—although individual-level contributions are important and expected of the position I hold. Rather, being a leader entails providing behind-the-scenes support to enable others to shine and deliver something great. That support could be direct, such as providing mentoring or collaboration on a specific project or deliverable, or it could be indirect, such as by taking something off others’ plate and/or protecting time and space for them to concentrate on the project/deliverable. And by “others,” they could be anyone in the organizational hierarchy, not just those reporting to me.
Take Care of Others
The point from my meditation about taking care of others instantly resonated with the caregiver in me. Even without getting anything back, it’s in my DNA to want to take care of others in a non-martyr kind of way.
As a case in point, this past Friday afternoon, I was looking forward to wrapping up the week to enjoy my first work-free weekend in some time. But then, an issue came up that quickly threatened that outlook and even made me wonder if I needed to cancel my dinner plans for the evening. When I approached my boss to discuss a game plan to deal with the development, he said he’d handle the situation from that point on and that he didn’t want it to affect my weekend.
While I appreciated that—he really is a great boss—I didn’t feel good about leaving him on his own all weekend without trying to help in some way. As such, on Saturday, I took the initiative of taking care of something else I knew he had to do over the weekend in the hopes that he could get some time back. It was the caregiver instinct that compelled me to do that. Taking care of each other and having each others’ back is what being on the same team means to me, including people above and below my role in the organizational hierarchy.
How May I Serve?
To sum it up, the wisdom of the intuitive message that came through me when I quieted my mind underscores the importance of being other-focused. I’m grateful that my inner wisdom reminded me of that, lest I get lost in my self-imposed (a.k.a. ego-imposed) pressure to perform or in worrying about whether I’m coming up to speed on the job fast enough. It reminds me of a piece of advice Dr. Wayne Dyer often offers to keep our ego in check, i.e., to ask ourselves, “How may I serve?” If we could remember to focus on this question, we’d never truly need to wonder what we need to do in order to succeed or if we’d be taken care of if we didn’t fend for ourselves first.
Over to you: Do you agree that if we focus on serving others, we wouldn’t need to worry about success or being taken care of?
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