Over the last two days, I was interviewed on two radio shows to talk about living our best life NOW—not tomorrow, not later when conditions we deem necessary are fulfilled. This topic, which has become a big focus of my work this year, came to me while on a personal retreat last December, when I sought Divine guidance and clarity from my inner wisdom on what to do next to fulfill my mission. On the radio interviews, I also talked about the top reasons why so many of us don’t feel we can embrace our best lives now, as well as the keys to changing that.
Let me first summarize the top reasons why our best life eludes us.
Reason #1: Don’t know what we want. This point is pretty simple: Without clarity around what constitutes our best life, we can’t embrace it.
Reason #2: Fear of leaving our comfort zone. As the saying goes, “The devil we know is better than the devil we don’t know.” Even if our present life is less than fulfilling—or even downright intolerable—at least we know our misery. That’s preferable to the risk of not landing on a more fulfilling alternative. The fear associated with this risk can be downright paralyzing.
Reason #3: Don’t feel good enough. Many of us are caught in a never-ending self-improvement loop because, deep down, we fear we’re broken or inadequate, that we aren’t inherently worthy of the best that life has to offer. It’s one thing to seek new skills to enable us to do what we want to do. It’s quite another if we feel undeserving without clearing hurdles of our own making. Believing we aren’t good enough is a sure-fire way to defer living our best life indefinitely.
With the above said, what can we do to embrace our best life NOW? This could easily be the subject of a whole book, not just one article. However, I’ve learned that there are basically 3 keys to embracing our best life now. Let me introduce them here.
Key #1: Decide. As obvious as this may seem, many of us sit on the proverbial fence. One day, we’re full of conviction that life is too short to settle for an unsatisfying existence; we’re rearing to go! The next day, fear, limiting self-talk, and the gremlin of unworthiness catch up with us, and we revert right back to living with the devil we know.
As Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Once you make a decision, the Universe conspires to make it happen.” Other philosophers, mystics and spiritual teachers—both eastern and western—throughout history have pretty much said the same thing. After all, universal truths transcend time and space. When we make a decision to do something, we tee up our mind to look for evidence to support it—that’s the way our brain is wired. We set in motion a self-fulfilling prophecy to manifest what we’ve decided to embrace.
Key #2: Honor life and who we are. When we don’t like something, our natural human reaction is to reject and turn away from it. If we’re miserable in our current life, we can’t wait to throw it all away and start anew. Yet, who we are and life itself serve as the starting place, the container to hold the good we wish to receive in our best life. If we turn away from this container, what holds that which we wish to receive? Furthermore, many of us fall prey to judging ourselves harshly on what we have done as detours or having fallen off our path altogether. Yet, when we stop to take stock of what those experiences have taught us, we realize that they were meant to set us up and provide us with invaluable skills, know-how and experience to create our best life.
Moreover, many of us mistake living our best life as a bed of roses all the time. That is, we’ll never feel scared, anxious or depressed again. However, as long as we’re human, challenges are bound to come up, as they are an unavoidable part of life that we need to honor. Living our best life doesn’t mean it’s all flow and no ebb. Rather, it means we’re equipped to navigate the ups and downs without losing our conviction or passion for the life we’ve set out to live consciously.
Key #3: Release what no longer serves us. To continue with the container metaphor, if our container is already full, where would we receive the good we want? Therefore, we must be willing to let go of any old story to which we’re attached that’s incongruent with what we want to embrace. Some of what needs to be released is at the conscious level. For instance, anger, resentment and victimhood mentality fall into this category. We need to be honest with ourselves about holding onto old pain and grievances that have inadvertently become a comfortable security blanket, one that gives us the righteous excuse not to move forward. Forgiveness and other practices of conscious releasing of the old create space for our best life.
Aside from what we know at the conscious level, there are also forgotten limiting beliefs and latent untruths active in our subconscious mind. This subconscious programming makes reflexive decisions for us and runs our lives 95% or more of the time when we don’t pay attention to what we’re actually thinking. We can learn tools to help us gut such self-defeating programming. To give you an example, a hidden belief I had to release was that I must give up something to get paid. Therefore, “work” was synonymous with “things I couldn’t enjoy doing.” That belief wasn’t acquired consciously; rather, it came from internalizing what I had observed since I was a little girl.
The Time is NOW!
Cliché as it may sound, life really is too precious to be anything short of remarkable or that which takes our breath away—at least every so often. Tomorrow and the days, weeks, years beyond are not promised to us. As I experienced firsthand, life could truly end in a flash without warning. NOW is the best time—the right time—to embrace living our best life! So, how about it?
Over to you: What are your thoughts about embracing your best life? What would you say to someone who needs an extra boost to go for it NOW? Would love for you to share your thoughts below in the comment box!
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