You’ve probably heard of masculine vs. feminine energy. In case you haven’t, it has to do with the two halves we all have, regardless of our gender. They offer us complementary capacities to create and live an optimal, successful life, however we choose to define “optimum” and “success.” Our logical, action-oriented masculine side, sizes up situations, analyzes options, identifies desired outcomes, charts the course to get there, and takes action. Our intuitive, feeling feminine side, houses our unbounded creativity, our receptivity to being guided by our inner wisdom, and a powerful knowing that eludes logic and rational thinking.
Most of us are more comfortable running our lives from one side than the other. That’s due to a combination of natural inclinations and socialization. And, it isn’t automatically a matter of whether someone is male or female: Just picture a male artist who’s deeply in touch with his creative, feminine energy, or a female executive who’s decisive and commanding. Personally, I’ve had to learn later in life to run my feminine energy, because my masculine side was developed and used disproportionately more—thanks to the combined decades in academic research and higher education that’s all about the intellect, and then the corporate world that values logical analysis, planning and execution.
We want to leverage both sides of us, so that we don’t miss a whole half of us with which we were born to create a spectacular life of purpose. Leaning too heavily on our feminine side—regardless of whether we’re male or female—means lots of creative ideas that don’t see the light of day, because we don’t act on them. We need our masculine side to bring our creative ideas to fruition, to convert our gifts into tangible ways to serve the world. Too much masculine energy is sub-optimal as well, as it often amounts to aggressive behavior and forcing things to happen that may not be right, or busy action that’s neither inspired nor productive, leading to frustration and/or exhaustion.
Instead, we need balance. But balance doesn’t mean that we’re 50-50 masculine-feminine all the time. Rather, it’s a fluid dance between our masculine and feminine sides. That is, knowing when to be still and tune into our inner wisdom and creativity for the highest good of all involved (feminine), and when to take inspired, deliberate action following a clear intention (masculine).
An In-process Example
A few weeks ago, I wrote about visioning for 2013, and how I was told to move fearlessly forward this year. What I also received was the message that I needed to get ready to move. It wasn’t the first time I got that message, and it repeated again this past Sunday. As I wrote in my book, persistence and increasing frequency in recurring nudges—such as this one about my house—are characteristics of messages from our inner wisdom that are intended for our highest good, no matter how illogical or irrational they may seem. This call to release my house in objectively poor timing is reminiscent of the one that told me repeatedly to leave my job in November 2009 in the midst of a historic recession.
Why now? Because it’s simply time. I bought my house almost 6 years ago. At the time, I desperately needed a place of my own into which to withdraw to attempt at picking up the pieces of my shattered heart. My house became the ultimate symbol of my ability to survive anything, a tangible proof that I can take care of myself no matter what. Indeed, this house has sheltered me through storms and served as a much needed safe haven for me to heal—heart, mind, body and spirit—so that I can grow into the woman I wanted to become. At this point, that agreement has been fulfilled. And, that’s why it’s time for me to release this great blessing in my life to make room for the next phase.
Does this unsettle me? Am I scared? You bet! But living fearlessly doesn’t mean not feeling fear. It means being able to move forward in spite of the fear. What’s enabling me to move forward is my faith and my belief that life is always on my side. Beyond that, it’s my learning to master the dance between the masculine and the feminine, i.e., trusting my feminine side and being still and grounded to listen for next steps, as well as leaning on my well-trained masculine side to evaluate my options and act on what needs to be done. What’s more, besides my existing support network, great people have magically shown up in my life just in time to help me through this impending transition. It’s as the saying goes:
Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
It is my intention to let go of my house—however and whenever—with ease and grace. It’ll be a dance of listening, discerning, surrendering and taking guided action.
Now, over to you: Do you find yourself more comfortable living from your masculine or feminine side? Do you see any merits in developing the other side of you that doesn’t feel as natural to you? Would love for you to share in the comment box below some insights on how you cultivate and keep your balance.
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