This week, my baby brother ties the knot with his partner of 12 years and counting. I’m truly happy for both him and his bride, whom I’ve already considered my sister for many years. To me, whether they’re officially married is only a matter of formality. The two of them have been through some truly difficult times and managed to stick together through thick and thin. They chose. They loved. And they continue to choose and love one another.
I didn’t come from a close-knit family by any objective standard. After all, the six of us (my parents, three brothers and myself) plus our offspring are spread out in two different continents. When we gathered last as a family for my dad’s 70th birthday a year and a half ago, it was the first time in 16 years that we were all together in one place—during which time 4 grandchildren were born. Since I left my childhood home almost 27 years ago, weddings happened with one or more of us four kids missing. That was just the way things were, and no one took it personally. The wedding this Saturday will be the first in our family history, when our baby won’t be missing any sibling on his special day.
For a host of reasons, traveling halfway across the globe to attend my brother’s wedding at this time really isn’t the best idea. Yet, I’ve chosen to make this trip. Why? Because I’m doing it for Love—my mantra for 2013. To witness the exchange of vows between my brother and the love of his life is a once-in-a-lifetime celebration I don’t want to regret missing. When I’m grounded in my heart center, I’m connected to the Infinite Pure Love within that’s my true nature, seeking to be expressed through and as me. In the eyes of Love, whether or not we’re a close-knit family is irrelevant. In the consciousness of Love, whatever history we’ve shared matters not one bit. When Love is Why, it doesn’t matter that my family looks like one spectacular cosmic mistake, binding by blood such vastly different personalities, beliefs and sensibilities.
Love Is Our Nature
I’ve learned that Love is a conscious choice in the human experience—always has, always will be. We can choose to love anyone—including ourselves—under any condition in any capacity. We can choose to receive love from the most unlikely human source at the most inopportune time in the most unexpected way. If we’re willing to keep our heart open, choosing Love is a no-brainer. It’s really the only thing to do. The only thing to be.
So, with a full and grateful heart, I’m looking forward to celebrating Love—romantic love between my brother and his bride, as well as parent-daughter and sibling love with my family.
Over to you: What’s your take on Love? Do you believe it’s a choice? How do you choose it when it may not be easy to do so?
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