A few weeks ago, I wrote about starting a new year with the birth of a personal mantra “Do it for Love.” Since then, to keep Love front and center in my consciousness as my purpose, I journal nearly every morning on the following question, “What does Love want me to know today?” It’s my own rendition of “Conversations with God,” who isn’t a deity in the sky, but rather Universal Life Force Energy and Divine Presence that’s synonymous with Love.
This is your time to know you deserve to be taken care of, that you don’t need to labor… Work on getting rid of all feelings of undeserving of being cared for. Let love into your life in ways you hadn’t allowed before.
To be perfectly honest, my ego immediately reacted to that message. Really? After all these years of peeling back the onion and releasing limiting beliefs, I’m still harboring feelings of unworthiness? You’ve got to be kidding me!!! But, after acknowledging my bruised ego, I realized that the message from Love was valid and spot on. It is indeed time to release remaining remnants of learned unworthiness.
Untruths are learned
Unworthiness is a learned untruth. After all, without exception, all of us are born whole, complete and perfect. Anything short of that knowing are untruths we acquired along the way of growing up and navigating life the best we knew how at every stage.
I was born into a culture and a childhood home that only knew survival through hard work and overcoming challenging circumstances. An expression I grew up hearing all the time was, “Every coin you bite into contains blood.” Nothing came easily, and, subconsciously, I couldn’t wait to grow up, run far, far away from home, and be in the position to keep myself safe. On top of that, I also learned that, as a girl, I was destined to have to work extra hard and do more to prove myself worthy. All that set the stage for an overachiever’s life, one that, unfortunately, could never yield true contentment, as no amount of achievement could ever be enough to fill the bottomless pit of unworthiness.
I was done with that old story years ago, or so I thought. My ego would like me to believe that I’ve overhauled my life enough, that there’s no onion left to be peeled back any further. The truth, however, is that Love knows better. While I’m truly grateful for how purposeful my post-overachieving life is, something has been holding me back from fully shining my light and truly thriving with the ease and grace I know is my Truth. That’s why the message about releasing any lingering feelings of not deserving to be cared for and being open to receiving love in ways I didn’t allow before is so poignant, a message I’m willing and ready to take heed.
Therefore, with all of you as my witness, I vow to unlearn the lingering remnants of untruths around unworthiness, and to welcome love into my life in ways I didn’t allow before. I’m willing to surrender to Love even more. In doing so, I don’t need to drive myself crazy analyzing all the different ways I may still feel unworthy. Instead, I commit to remembering my Truth of wholeness and completeness, remembering to do whatever I do for the purpose of Love, rather than to feed a learned ego-induced, fear-based need to “earn” worthiness. I also commit to opening my heart to receive even more graciously, dismantling whatever’s left of my defensive armor of “I’ve got it all together, and I don’t need you, thank you very much!”
Over to you…
In choosing to share the above here—instead of keeping it in my private journal—it is my heartfelt intention that it serves you at some level. Might it not stir something within you? After all, learned unworthiness is at the root of what tells us we can’t, what keeps us from dreaming and realizing our dreams, and what keeps us from living our best lives. Perhaps my sharing above inspires you to become acquainted with some of your own untruths that are keeping you from fully stepping out, shining your light and sharing your gifts? Perhaps you’re ready to take steps to release these untruths? Will you meditate on that, journal on that, contemplate that? Will you join me in letting go of our untruths and committing to remembering and living from our Truth of wholeness and completeness instead?
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